Let’s face it, as an entrepreneur you have to motivate yourself.
There is no boss looking over your shoulder making sure that you do the work to keep busy and be productive.
In a world where far too many people suffer the syndrome of ‘lack of self motivation’ (which is in my opinion due in part to being programmed by the educational system and the workforce) – basically because we have been forced from an early age to do shit we don’t really feel like doing – day in and day out) – we’ve never learned how to be self motivated (because we really haven’t had to be).
Once you decide that the path of a conventional career is not for you and choose the entrepreneurial path instead, you might notice how difficult it can be to stay focused and get shit done.
This is especially noticeable when you choose to work from home – with all of it’s distractions.
And if ALL that isn’t hard enough, we women have more than the usual entrepreneurial challenges to deal with.
The impact of menstruation on our work is not often spoken of.
Let’s face it, when you have a job, you may not like how you feel working on the days that you bleed (and if your hormonal havoc is really bad, your productivity might start waning significantly 1-2 weeks leading up to your period), BUT as long as you show up and do the job, you’re A ok, even if you feel a little slow, tired or emotional.
There is always ibuprofen for the pain and the fact that you are low vibe for few days doesn’t really have much of an affect on your regular paycheque.
An entrepreneur on the other hand can’t afford the luxury of pushing through in a low vibe state, because being in a low vibe is NOT client attractive – and having major lulls in productivity over the month can mean there are no leads being generated or money coming in.
There is no quick fix for that.
If you have hormonal havoc, your ability to be successful in your business is definitely suffering.
You may even think that you are defective in some way or just don’t have what it takes to be an entrepreneur.
But I am here to tell you that your habits and behaviours are not you.
They may be deeply ingrained, but they aren’t intrinsic to you.
Your physiology affects your personality traits.
When you have hormonal havoc here are just some of the inefficient ways you might find yourself doing business (or not taking yourself and your business seriously)…..
1) Hate networking (small talk is not for the moody!)
2) You want clients – but not really (because what if you are not in the mood anymore when their session is scheduled?!).
3) You too often have to cancel your sessions because of tension headaches, brain fog and period pain.
4) You are unfocused, busy doing a lot of shit, but not getting much of value accomplished.
5) You are too sensitive or insecure to be able to handle being visible on social media (paranoia).
6) If someone questions, criticizes or offers even constructive feedback about what you ‘share’, you get angry or have to cry.
7) You are afraid to take on too much, because you are always worried that you’ll run out of energy or crash.
8) ‘Overwhelm’ is your middle name and you are afraid to take on new clients because you don’t trust your self to be able to stay on top of the work.
9) You’ve got magical thinking….you wish that you could just sit back and facilitate your work without having to sell – or wish someone would ‘discover you’, wave a magic wand and make you an overnight success.
10) You’ve got resistance to everything you once felt like doing and regret having put all that stuff on your calendar (because now it feels like a chore and an obligation).
11) Don’t want to be seen in photos or on video because you feel puffy bloated and fat.
12) Your clients annoy you when they struggle, because it triggers your own ‘stuff’
These are not personality traits, they are ‘inharmonious’ feelings generated by ‘inharmonious hormones’ and ‘inharmonious habits’.
If your hormones are ‘out of balance, so is your business.
How could it be any other way?
Our world is a reflection of how we feel inside.
We have to look deeper into the inner workings of our lives to address the root cause of our struggles in business.
There is no point learning more marketing tactics when the root cause of your struggles are hormonal.
A hormonal person can’t bring even the best of plans to fruition.
But it is not really about balancing your hormones.
It is about harmonizing your life.
When you harmonize your life – body, mind, heart and soul – you get back in flow and harmony with yourself.
And your business becomes a reflection of that!
I tell you all about how to do it in this FREE ‘Hormone Harmony’ call:
What have you known for a long time that needs to change in your life, but you’ve been paralyzed to take action for fear that things could get even worse if you did it?
When we try to hold on to something AND try to let go at the same time – nothing changes!
When you think of ‘that thing’ for you, have you been….
– Wanting a guarantee that it will all work out.
– Wanting ‘the way’ to reveal it self first before you commit.
– Waiting for someone to come and save you from it.
– Hoping, wishing and praying for a miracle.
– Wishing that God would come down from the sky, decide for you or tell you the right thing to do.
I get it lady, that’s how I lived the last 10 years of a very draining and unfulfilling marriage that I just couldn’t let go of (more on that in a sec).
You might feel like you’ve tried everything, but what you haven’t done yet are the only things that you ACTUALLY need to do..
1) tell yourself the truth
2) make a decision
3) commit to doing whatever it takes
4) keep taking inspired action
5) keep the faith
Faith is what is needed, to have the courage to do what you know needs to be done and finally make space to design your dream life by divorcing from your default life (the one you are settling for even though you know you were born for more).
You need to unravel what’s been holding you back and stay focused on consciously creating the life you really want, every single day.
It is not enough to set new years goals or monthly new moon intentions.
You have to give up something of a lower value to make room for something of a higher value in your life.
You can’t have it both ways.
I finally made my divorce decision, after 20 years together……
This summer, through very systematic mindset work I was finally able to admit the truth to myself.
If I stayed in this relationship I would never have the life I truly wanted or live to my potential.
I had to tell myself the truth….
1) I was settling for crumbs, for fear that being alone or the fall out would be worse than staying.
2) A part of me wanted to stay only to maintain control over how my children are raised because deep down I knew that my values and standards were not his.
3) I was putting up with things I shouldn’t have been, because of a primal need to be protected, taken care of and provided for as a mother.
Maybe you can relate to some or all of this?
I will soon be revealing the whole story and A TON more about my journey with this in the Dream Design Tribe.
Why?
Because it would have really helped me to have had someone to mentor me through this process who had themselves been in my shoes.
Divorce is taboo in this culture still. Nobody wants to talk about it. Yet the majority of people do it!
Hmmmm.
I am not going to keep quiet.
I have been wanting to tell you about it this whole way through…..but I have been looking for a way to be able to do it without holding anything back and at the same time not air my dirty laundry in front of people who would just enjoy the drama of it.
I will be telling the whole story and will also share…
1) the journal exercises I did to finally acknowledge what I really wanted
2) I will share with you the coaching exercises I did to uncover the truth about what was really stopping me from leaving
3) I will show you how to do the emotional work I am currently doing to process the experience so that I learn from it and don’t hold on to resentment
and so much more!
There is soooooooo much opportunity for growth and spiritual development in a divorce. It doesn’t have to be a downward spiral. You can feel like a victim to it or you can use it to make you stronger.
I have to admit, that at first the whole experience felt like it was happening TO me.
Even though it was a mutual decision, it still didn’t feel like it was a choice to me – I only chose it because he refused to go to marriage counselling.
I was willing to do the work, he wasn’t. I lost hope that things would ever be different and that was why I finally let go.
I have had to process a lot of hurt about him not caring enough or feeling that I was worth the effort.….3 months of crying daily at ‘that thought’….. I really did love that man despite his short comings.
And then I realized that THIS wasn’t happening TO me, it was happening FOR me.
Here is the truth honey…..
– If he doesn’t love himself, he can’t love you.
– If he doesn’t want you, he doesn’t deserve you.
– If he’s consciously and deliberately holding you back in anyway from living into the best version of yourself, he’s not in your marriage to give, he’s there to take.
– If he’s already left you emotionally, leaving you physically is the most loving thing he could do (he’s setting you free)!
If you’ve been on the fence about your relationship or contemplating divorce, I want to help you.
If I had the tools that I have now – years ago – they would have helped me to make or break the marriage much sooner.
My younger self so needed someone to share their experience.
Many people have told me throughout the years that I should just leave him, but no one showed me how.
No one shares what separation and divorce is really like (until after the fact)….no one shares how it is as you are going through it ….the phases and feelings etc.
It took a lot of faith to act from truth – without knowing what the consequences would be….how my life would change.
But I had to accept that there would be fears to face and inevitable breakdowns before the break throughs.
Doesn’t matter what the big scary change is that you need to make, there will be pain….but you don’t have to suffer.
Myself, I have been able to release years of repressed pain though this.
Seeing what patterns have played out rooted in deep childhood traumas has been enlightening.
The mindset work I do keeps me focused on what I want to create, rather than feeling sorry for myself, victimized, abandoned and betrayed (yes, I go there sometimes, but it doesn’t last because I now know how to get a hold of my mind when it starts to cling to negativity and poor me thoughts).
Yes, I do deeply feel the pain of grief, loss and separation…..but I also feel more alive, like the future is wide open and I am so grateful for the opportunity to exercise my faith in the creator as the source of everything.
So maybe you aren’t going through a divorce, but let’s face it, if you are human, you are going through something you ultimately do need to divorce your self from.
There is something you are dissatisfied with in your life.
That is how it should be.
Dissatisfaction fuels the change that leads to conscious creation and elevating your standards – so that the experience that you have in life just keeps getting better!
My only regret is that I didn’t do this sooner.
If you need help to get to the truth of what needs to change in your life, clarity about what you want instead, fuel for faith and help to stay focused on what you want to create in your life – instead of ‘settling’ like I did for far too long, then I would LOVE to help.
If you’ve been going from one specialist to the next and no one can find out what’s wrong with you, you need to hear this.
There is a reason why they can’t find anything wrong with you.
Your ‘parts’ aren’t failing.
But your body is trying to tell you something.
Symptoms should never be ignored or suppressed.
Your body speaks to you through ‘symptomatology’.
Symptomatology is the study of symptoms of nutritional deficiency and organ system imbalances….. before those imbalances become diagnosable diseases.
Honestly, I think you are lucky that they haven’t diagnosed you.
That is just one less mental block in the way of YOU healing yourself.
Yes, honey, YOU do the healing.
THEY can suppress it, cut it out or diagnose it, but they don’t heal it.
You have a CHOICE in this.
You can keep going from one expert to the next, looking for the ‘one’ thing that’s wrong with you.
The problem with that though is that if you hold in mind that something is wrong with you, then you will eventually find ‘something’.
Instead of running the question over and over in your mind of ‘what’s wrong with me’, you might want to start asking yourself another question, like ‘how can I heal my self’?
Having a diagnosis doesn’t heal, although it does usually bring emotional relief to some degree – because we want to find a reason outside of ourselves to explain why we feel so bad.
We want others to validate our experience.
We are soooooo tired of hearing, ‘it is just in your head’.
I am not saying that what you are experiencing isn’t happening, but I do think it all starts in the mind.
The thoughts we think either serve us in the direction of healing – essentially that would be to go inside.
We don’t heal when we look outside of ourselves.
I am talking about the chronic stuff.
Sure you can throw diet, lifestyle and supplements at the acute stuff – and you get quick results – because the acute is active, not suppressed.
I think dis-ease is a gift.
It happens FOR you, not TO you.
But when you bypass the root cause(s) and go straight to suppressing your symptoms (or cutting out body parts) – you miss an opportunity to hear what your body is really trying to tell you.
It is trying to tell you that something isn’t right.
That’s it.
But what is it that is not right?
Who knows?
You do.
You may not be wiling to admit it right now, but you do know what isn’t right or in alignment in your life.
My grandma had stomach cancer, she had it cut out, but 10 years later she had cancer again.
She had only extracted the cancer, not the cause of the cancer.
The next time she got the diagnosis, she didn’t even try to fight it.
She told my mom “why would I want to live, all I have to look forward to is waiting on him hand and foot” (or something to that effect).
She was just done already and I don’t blame her.
Can you hear the resentment?
He never wanted to do what she wanted to do and so she never did what she wanted to do.
But did she really have to manifest a disease and die to get away from him?
She could have just decided to leave him 20 years earlier or tell him she would be doing what she wanted to do – and if he didn’t want to come along, that’s fine, he didn’t have to.
Everyday women suffer with physical pains that are simply their body crying out, because they haven’t listened to the emotions that are screaming for their attention – telling them that something just isn’t right.
You feel it in your emotions first, and if you ignore them, then your body will ‘hit you over the head’ with it.
It could be conscious or unconscious.
If you have a chronic health issue, would you be willing to consider that this is happening FOR you, not TO you?
That those painful symptoms are to finally wake you up to do ‘that thing’ that you know you should do, but you’ve been too scared to?
I hope you won’t let my grandma’s death and her teaching be in vain.
I hope that what I am saying does not fall on deaf ears.
The same creator that lovingly built in these warning signals to help you avoid sickness – also created your body with inherent self healing mechanisms.
I know you may be doubting that right now.
I get it.
But let’s put it into perspective, if you go into the kitchen right now and slice your finger, will it stop bleeding, scab over and heal?
You don’t doubt that it will. And so it does.
And it just proves that your vital healing force is alive and well.
If you are not just healing naturally right now on your own, then there is something in the way.
The whole looking to experts to fix you thing doesn’t seem to be working, so it just might be time to start looking at this thing from a different perspective.
Disease is not exempt from cause and effect.
It didn’t just magically drop into your body.
You are not a victim.
When would NOW be a good time to try something a little different?
You’ll transform your health, when you decide to transform your life.
The first time I got this, my life was transformed – by transforming my health.
It could come in either order.
If I hadn’t been diagnosed with mononucleosis and sent home to go to sleep for a couple of years along with a a bottle of antibiotics for strep throat, I wouldn’t be here right now writing you this.
I would never in a million years take that experience back.
It happened FOR me.
I found my passion, my dharma and a whole new paradigm of self responsibility – that gave me the knowing deep inside my bones that I and I alone was responsible for my health and had the power to change it.
When you stop feeling like someone else is responsible to figure out what is wrong with you, you’ve got your power back.
When you assume responsibility over your circumstances (including your health), you can change them.
I had to make a hard decision this year.
Like my grandma, I too was living with a man who let me do the lions share of everything domestic, he refused to help me or do anything I suggested – ‘it costs too much money’ was his all time favourite excuse.
Even when I had started to consistently make good money in my business (which I thought would make him take it seriously and motivate him to help me more).
It didn’t.
He still acted like my work wasn’t important and like I wasn’t important.
By this time I was consistently matching his income as a plumber and sometimes doubling it, so I finally just hired a wonderful woman to help me with cooking and cleaning one day a week to keep my sanity.
I resented how much I gave him and how much he withheld.
I was getting heavy (literally and figuratively) and bitter.
In the last couple of years, I kept having the thought….
“If I stay with him, would I end up like my grandma, with resentment eating me from the inside out in the form of cancer one day?”
And so, I wasn’t giving up on my marriage when I finally said yes to divorce.
I was making the choice to live.
The truth is that I am kind of embarrassed that I was so weak – to have stayed and settled for so long – for putting up with so much shit – and being so naive to think there was any hope of him changing.
And he never failed to disappoint me.
Besides that I am loyal to a fault – the only explanation I can give right now for why I kept ignoring the truth of how I felt is that I loved him.
I was holding in mind who I thought he could be, not who he was (a hazard that goes with the territory of being able to see people’s potential even when they can’t see it for themselves).
Then my body ‘hit me over the head’ with an extra 20 lbs in two months, on top of the fact that I was already voluptuous.
I knew the stress of my marriage was a huge factor.
And it still took a few more years before I was really ready to look at divorce as even being an option.
So I get it.
I get how hard it is to make whatever ‘that change’ is that needs to happen for you
But the real reason that I started writing this note, was just to share with you, that there is another way.
I wanted you to know that you can stop looking for what’s wrong with your body and just start making things right in your world.
In the following video, I share a bit about what I think it takes to heal and what my approach is to helping you heal your self (if you want a little or a lot of support): http://www.nutritionwisdom.ca/nutrition-consulting
And that means that your energy might be starting to recede along with the moon.
It is the perfect time to start looking at what specifically is draining your energy.
And systematically deal with each thing, until you’ve freed yourself up from limitations, clutter and soul sucking situations.
If you want help with any of that e-mail me at [email protected] and tell me what’s holding you back.
This week is the perfect time to address it and let it go.
I have a small coaching package designed to help you deal with that 1 thing, that if you solved it – would change your life.
It is probably something that is really hard for you to look at on your own (or you would have already dealt with it).
Which is why you might need support to focus on it long enough to uncover what REALLY needs to be done to change it.
e-mail me at [email protected] if you are interested and I will reply with details about how it works!
Even if you don’t want my help, please take a moment to think about ‘that thing’.
What is stopping you from changing it? Is there even a small step you can take now towards it’s resolution?
Now is the perfect time to contemplate this (moon cycle wise).
If you decide to courageously meet your major life issue head on and stop ignoring it, minimizing it or plain pretending it is not an issue, you could have a completely different life – by next week!
As the saying goes, ‘you have to change your life to change your life’.
When you move your body, put your clothes on in the morning or look in the mirror, do you see your best self?
When I was overweight, I didn’t really recognize the woman in the mirror.
Yeah, I knew she was me, but she didn’t look like the high vibe, inspired and motivated women I had always known myself to be.
I had become a work-a-holic to distract myself from a marriage that was not only unfulfilling, but felt like a trap.
I felt like I had to shrink who I am on the inside to fit inside his limiting worldview.
My body was like ‘hell no’, you are not going to do that and it started to expand physically to get my attention.
The relationship was expiring and I didn’t want to believe it.
Every moment of the day I found myself giving to my husband, my kids, my work and my clients.
But it seemed like no one had my back.
I felt unappreciated and un – nurtured.
I was starting to look haggard.
Not only was I ‘puffing’ up, drying out and gaining weight, but I was starting to feel futile about the future and just plain old burnt out.
My body started to reflect my inner turmoil.
As within, so without.
As I hid from the truth, I began to shrink behind my large frame.
I didn’t want to be seen.
The body reflects our repressed emotions, negative thought patterns and limiting beliefs.
The truth is though, that we want more than to just lose the weight…..
We want ourselves back.
We want to be free to be the best version of ourselves.
We don’t want to just be slim, we want to be satisfied with who we are being in the world, in our relationships, in our work.
We want to feel like the future is wide open with possibility and see our selves living into our dreams in the highest expression of ourselves inside and out.
We want to feel sexy so that we can feel uninhibited and hot in the bedroom.
We want to feel satisfied with the direction that our lives are moving and happy with the forward progress we are making.
Does this resonate and you can relate?
Are you ready to stop ignoring what the weight is trying to tell you?
If you want to use letting go of the weight as an opportunity to drop the ‘stuff’ that is draining you in your life – and use it as a catalyst to create the life of your dreams (and stop settling !), then we need to talk.
I would LOVE to help!
If you’d like to get my personal support to make this happen, for a limited time I’m offering “Slim, Sexy and Satisfied” coaching sessions for ZERO COST.
During this powerful, one-on-one coaching session, we’ll work together to…
=> Create a crystal clear vision for the ideal life you intend to live as the new ‘slim, sexy and satisfied’ you.
=> Uncover hidden challenges that may be sabotaging your weight loss efforts and keeping you fat.
=> You’ll leave this session renewed, inspired, and ready to finally lose all of the weight you want – once and for all.
To claim your special “Slim, Sexy and Satisfied” coaching session now, e-mail [email protected] and answer these questions:
1. How long have you been struggling to lose weight?
2. On a scale of zero to 10 how important is it for you to lose weight and keep it off once and for all?
3. What have you tried doing to lose weight in the past?
4. What happened with those approaches?
5. What do you see as your biggest challenge with weight loss?
Be sure to include your name, phone number and email address and I will be in touch within 24 to 48 hours to get you scheduled for your one-on-one “Slim, Sexy and Satisfied” session (please allow up to 60 minutes for this coaching session.)
You’ll love this trick for getting kale off the stem, plus learn how to make raw kale more digestible.
Watch the video to find out how!
What you will need:
1 head kale
the juice of half a lemon
half a large tomato, chopped
1 medium ripe avocado
unrefined salt (to taste)
pepper (to taste)
olive oil (a few splashes)
3 cloves garlic (pressed)
apple cider vinegar ( a splash)
How to do it:
Step 1: Massage the kale with salt until it looks dark and steamed.
Step 2: Add remaining ingredients and massage with hands.
Step 3: Let sit while you cook dinner so that it is more digestible.
Let me tell you how to prepare it to keep it healthy (not to mention metabolism boosting).
Watch and learn!
What you will need:
1 cup coconut oil
1 cup raw cacao
3 Tbsp powdered erythritol
3 drops of plain stevia
How to do it:
Step 1: Measure 1 cup cocoa into a small saucepan.
Step 2: Add 1 cup coconut oil and turn heat on medium.
Step 3: Stir in 3 Tbsp erythritol and 3 drops stevia.
Step 4: Keep whisking until melted.
Step 5: Pour onto cook sheet lined with parchment paper or silicone chocolate molds.
Want to learn more?
Get in on this FREE training to find out how you can eat rich, creamy foods all day and night and STILL lose the weight!
Let’s face it, when you have a job, you may not like how you feel working on the days that you bleed (and if your hormonal havoc is really bad, your productivity might start waning significantly 1-2 weeks leading up to your period), BUT as long as you show up and do the job, you’re A ok, even if you feel a little slow, tired or emotional.
I get it lady, that’s how I lived the last 10 years of a very draining and unfulfilling marriage that I just couldn’t let go of (more on that in a sec).
But your body is trying to tell you something.
