Nurturing the New Family
Rediscover motherhood while learning the secrets of postpartum rejuvenation, so that you can increase your vitality, beauty and health through giving birth and raising a child!
Nurturing the New Family is about how and why the community can come together to nurture new families, and how pregnant women can cultivate greater self nurturing practices to embark on motherhood in a more empowered way.
Over 200 pages of practical ideas that will help you step into motherhood in a beautifully empowered, inspired and sacred way.
Purchase Nurturing the New Family as an instant pdf download $27
This book will enable you to…
- Communicate and get your need for nurturing met throughout pregnancy.
- Savour the whole experience of becoming mother-by cultivating a magical and memorable experience!
- Learn why yoga can help you flow with the energy of birth and explain to your partner how he/she can manage their energy to help you allow yourself to stay open and unbounded throughout pregnancy, birth and postpartum.
- Learn how to set up the postpartum experience so that you become blessed with more beauty, vitality and greater health each time you give birth.
- Prevent postpartum ‘blahs’ by creating a container for the kind of postpartum experience that builds your energy and allows you to focus on little more than simply bonding with your baby.
- Become emotionally prepared for motherhood and have your most sacred needs validated and held.
- Learn how to care for your body postpartum to prevent depression, heavy bleeding, diaper rash, colic and mastitis etc.
You’ll love this book if you are …..
- A mother or mother-to-be who longs to be honoured, celebrated and upheld in your transformation from Maiden to Mother!
- A father who wants to ravish your pregnant partner with love and support and understand the secret longings of the beautiful woman who is carrying your child!
- A friend who wants to bless that special pregnant woman in your life with greater support, conscious care and nurturing!
- A doula who wants to add nurturing practices to the care that you currently offer to new families!
“The Nurturing the New Family book pretty much changed my life (and I secretly wish everyone who ever knew me would read it so they’d know how to support me right now and I’d never have to ask). I loved every page. I am SO grateful. I’ve also done the one-on-one nutritional support with Sherry that has been deeply and profoundly healing in more ways than I ever could have guessed when we started out. Thank you, thank you, thank you!”
Carrie Klassen, founder of Pink Elephant Academy for Entrepreneuers www.pinkelephantacademy.com
“What a beautiful way to translate your beliefs and knowledge with others…..so many pregnant women don’t even know this is available to them! I love your soul and I know you will inspire many to do the same for others….have you realized the magnitude of your contribution to the world? If you are able to make one pregnant woman at a time feel embraced and celebrated for her accomplishment of motherhood, you will start changing the world, one expectant mother at a time!
“Helen Soderberg New York, NY
www.mommy2mommyonline.com
Why I wrote this book…..
The inspiration for this book comes out of my desire to see pregnant woman and mothers nurtured during the childbearing years. What I have noticed in my own life, and in the life of many mothers, is that while we selflessly give and nurture our families day and night, we are often left feeling alienated, exhausted, unsupported and un-nurtured.
Given that the present day culture minimizes the significance of pregnancy, childbirth and motherhood, is it any wonder that we feel this way?
“This is a beautiful gift from your sacred goddess self to us all. The flow makes me feel that this is all the training ever needed in another to being fully present and in service to the family of a new one coming in. I well up with tears because of its depth and beauty Sherry. And all so commonly felt among us. I feel you are sharing in simple perfect words, all that I have wished to impart to others for community birth. Bless you and thank you! You have covered lovingly and beautifully everything. If someone wants to be trained as doula this is all they need to start and then just be with the moms. If you are granmama, auntie, sister, man, mom this is a must read book. I want all my people to read it! Well done.” Carole Perez Montanari Sagaponack, NY
I know what it is like, because I’ve been there…..
Having navigated pregnancy and birth twice, and having had two very different experiences in the postpartum (on account of differing levels of engagement by my community), I have come to believe that nurturing and community support are essential elements in the health and well-being of all new families. Not only in the unfoldment of the new mother, but also in the continuing life story of the child. While we have all heard it said that “It takes a Village to Raise a Child”, we must also remember that it is the child who will go on to raise the world!
“This book was wonderful and beautiful and I am so excited to give this to as many people as I can think of .” Kerri Glendinning Edmonton, AB
What’s wrong with the way things are?
Today’s parents are not only expected to be the sole providers for and bare 100% of the responsibility of raising young children, but at the same time they are expected to make a meaningful and significant contribution to society.
But where have all the Grannies, the Aunties, the Grandfathers and the Uncles gone? Have we forgotten that our children’s children will go on to serve all of humankind in continuation of life on the planet? That they will one day be the leaders and decision makers in a future that will affect society at large? Are we not all responsible for all of our relations?
“Sherry Rothwell’s book, Nurturing the New Family, is a one-of-a-kind, generously informative and truly pioneers a new childbearing paradigm. This is a must read for anyone who has gone through pregnancy and childbirth without the proper support, for anyone who sees themselves as stewards of the next (healthy!) generation and for those who need half-an-excuse to find, accept and generously receive care while they are helping the human species to continue. I LOVED reading this book and can recommend it highly.”
Beth Martens, ‘Begin Again’ Yoga Coach & Kirtan Musician
www.BethMartens.com
What if there is another way?
This book explains why it is in all of our best interests to support young families by raising the next generation in community. It offers many ideas for how we can create not only great beginnings for the new mother and baby, but also a child friendly world as well!
This book is as much acknowledgment and validation for motherhood as it is chock full of uplifting and inspiring encouragement. It offers realistic, creative and tangible ideas for nurturing all aspects of lives including our relationships, our babies, our partnerships, community and self care!
“I just wanted to offer my support for such an inspirational piece of work that comes from the heart. It is beautifully written and weaves the journey of birth and motherhood into the fabric of life- it really is a tribute to your gentle sweet love of humanity. I have observed you many times as you you immersed your sweet Jasmine in unconditional Mother Love and this book is a testimony to you as a mother. All you have written comes from your experience and truth as a Wise Woman/ Mother/ Doula/ Healer- well done dearest Sherry, this is indeed a gift to mothers babies families and communities all around the Earth Mother!”
Janice Bass, Midwife, New Zealand www.communitybirth.net
In this book you will discover….
- Special Ways that the Community Can come together to Honour and Celebrate the New Family
- 24 Ways You Can Nourish All the 8 Aspects of Your Sacred Self!
- Why Yoga is both an act of Self Care and an Essential Practice for Childbirth
- How Holistic Doulas can Nurture and Hold the Space for your Experience of Pregnancy and Birth
- Easing the Postpartum & Bonding Experience through Ayurvedic Food Customs
- The 42 Day Sacred Window and how Father’s can nurture moms into greater health, youth and beauty!
- Postpartum Therapies ie: The BabyMoon, Moxibustion, Bellywrapping, Mother Baby Roasting etc.
- Preparing a Peaceful Postpartum Sanctuary: 32 Ways to Ease into Motherhood!
- Many Creative Ways to Create more Community in Your Life!
- And more!
“What a treat to read your beautiful book. It is wonderful and such a gift. Blessings on this birth Sherry. An enlightened entity indeed.”
Ronda Rice Kauai, HI
WHY THIS BOOK IS UNLIKE ANYTHING YOU’VE READ BEFORE….
- This is not about what to eat in pregnancy, but rather about nurturing all aspects of your self not only for the sake of your own and your baby’s well being, but also to establish your self care rhythms before the baby comes.
- This book is a gentle reminder of how important it is to continue to cultivate your interests and pursuits as an individual woman, even while fully embracing the role of the mother.
- This book is not about your changing body and developing baby, but rather about honouring you, your embarkation into motherhood and your transformation as a woman!
- This book is as much for Doulas, Midwives, Friends, Family, Partners and the extended community of a pregnant woman as much as, if not more than for the pregnant woman herself!
- This book is about how contributing to pregnant women ensures a brighter future for all of us and about the power and responsibility that we have as mothers!
“I so appreciate the tone and content of what you are saying here. The deep importance of pregnancy and birth and the crucial task of mothers is often ignored in our society. It feels good to read your words- its like a fresh breeze! I loved the part on teas and infusions, I learned a lot!”
Niko Palmer Edmonton, AB
www.BlossomingBellies.ca
Take a sneak peak into the content….
Intro
In the intro I share why I feel that nurturing is a required component of the health and well-being of new families-not a luxury. Through my first birth experience I discovered that the modern practice of midwifery has changed- thus creating a void. While modern midwives continue to offer a much more humanistic approach to childbirth, the days of the community midwife – the one who knows you and your family in an intimate way, has become somewhat of a cultural rarity with the recent professionalization of midwifery. Pregnant women however continue to have an inherent need for the inclusion of a wise women or a circle of experienced women, to guide or mentor them through the mysteries of both pregnancy and birth. This role can be filled by experienced women in our own community or facilitated by holistically minded and experienced doulas.
Chapter 1 My First Postpartum Story
In this chapter I share the trials and tribulations of my first post partum experience and how it led me to the path of serving as a Doula. It seems that collectively as a culture we have forgotten what new moms and newborn babies need-and how to provide for them as community. Along with allowing the medical profession to displace our loved ones in the birthing experience, we also unknowingly let community slip through our fingers thereby losing the family centered birth experience. I propose that it is now time to reclaim community supported childbirth and cultivate a village to raise our children. We can begin doing that by contributing to pregnant women and new families.
Chapter 2 The Heart of Embracing Family Life
As much as each individual woman can cultivate great self-responsibility and self-care, pregnant women also have an inherent need to be honoured, celebrated and nurtured through pregnancy and birth as a rite of passage. During this profound time she offers her body, mind, soul and heart to the community as a vessel of pro-creation, thus ensuring the continuance of humanity. In addition, the nature of the child she raises has far reaching impacts on what the future will look like for all of us. One thing that we can be sure of is that this child will effect and make a contribution to this world. Whether that contribution is positive or negative, rests on the child’s life experience. By working together as a community to allay any external stresses in the lives of pregnant women, we can help to create a contented child who feels at home and safe in his/her world.
Chapter 3 Community Coming together to Nurture the New Family
In this chapter I share many concrete and specific ways that the community can contribute to pregnant women and uphold the new family during the postpartum experience with love and reverence.
Chapter 4 Motherhood as a Bodhisattvic Path
In this chapter we exploring the path of motherhood as a spiritual practice. While it doesn’t look or feel anywhere near as idyllic or romantic as the ashram, the moment we conceive a child, the bodhisattva is born within us as mothers. The process of being aware as we conceive, gestate and open our wombs to the creative force- the all that is, becomes our attunement as woman healer- giving rise to the higher functioning we need to mentor our children into their vast potential and greatness. As we choose to offer ourselves up to mother in awareness, we consciously raise the consciousness of our children, and ultimately we generate the enlightenment of humanity as a whole.
Chapter 5 Sacred Acts of Self Care for the Pregnant Woman
Many women find themselves ill prepared for the demands of the experience of mothering. In this chapter we explore the importance of adopting rhythms around self care, along with 32 ways to nurture one’s self during pregnancy. At some point or another, we all hit a place of futility where we find ourselves drained and feeling uninspired as mothers. We discover the mantra “It is not up to me to meet all my child’s needs, but it is up to me to see that all my children’s needs are met” and explore the possibility that we don’t need to compromise. Instead we can seek higher solutions and find consensus in the seemingly endless conflicting desires that we have as mothers to serve our children and yet remain true to ourselves.
Chapter 6 Prenatal Yoga- A Practice in Self Care in Preparation for Giving Birth
In this chapter I share 6 reasons why I believe that yoga is hands down the best self care and preparation for childbirth.
Chapter 7 Nurturing Mama- Expanding the Masculine Heart
Pregnancy is both time for a man to deepen into his masculinity, and for a woman to deepen into her femininity. A father’s role in conception, pregnancy, and birth are very often underestimated in our culture, yet Father’s play an integral role in conception, birth, and parenting. In this chapter I share ways that parents can deepen in their relationship as preparation for parenting and how masculine strength can assist a woman to ground and open more fully into her feminine essence in preparation for childbirth and motherhood.
Chapter 8 Holistic Doulas- Nurturing Pregnancy and Birth
In this chapter I share the benefits of hiring a Doula to assist with the birthing experience and highlight the importance of choosing one that is holistically minded so that pregnant women can get not only the education they need to navigate the politics of childbirth- but to be fully nurtured throughout pregnancy and the postpartum. Nurturing can go a long way to providing pregnant women with a positive embarkation into motherhood, regardless of their birth outcome.
Chapter 9 Cultured at Birth
Babies acquire their inner ecosystem as they descend through the birth canal. Mother passes on her own gut flora (for better or for worse) to her baby. The state of mom’s flora has the potential to either promote healthy digestion, immunity and mental capacity or it can compromise her baby’s health from birth (causing a lot of unnecessary pain and suffering for both). In this chapter, a checklist is provided to highlight symptoms that may indicate an imbalance of microflora in the mother or father. Additionally, I outline 8 steps that parents can take to restore their microbial balance in preparation for the birth.
Chapter 10 The 42 Day Sacred Window
In Ayurveda, it is believed that postpartum women are to be nurtured and cared for by extended family with proper post partum food, daily massage, and nothing to do but care for and bond with their baby after the birth for 42 days. It is believed that, women who are cared for in this way will become rejuvenated, increasingly energized, more beautiful and healthier than they were before giving birth! On the other hand, they have also observed that if new mothers are not cared for and are expected by their community to just get on with the daily tasks of life; that they will in fact age faster and experience a loss in vitality in the postpartum. In this chapter we explore how postpartum is facilitated in other cultures and how we can best incorporate these traditional ways for mothers and babies in today`s world.
Chapter 10 The Babymoon
The Babymoon in a way corresponds to the 42 day Sacred Window. It refers to the special care we take as parents to bask in the afterglow of the birthing vibes and the beauty of bonding with our baby. Just as we have a honeymoon after getting married by secluding ourselves and taking out special time to bond with our partner, we can also intentionally create a babymoon with our new baby. In this chapter we explore how we can create sacred space in our homes, our lives and our community to welcome the new baby.
Chapter 12 Nourishing the Postpartum Woman with Food
In this chapter we explore the best type of foods to meet the needs of new mothers and how to best prepare them for her – foods that are warming, moist, sweet, oily, mineral rich and easy to digest. We end the chapter with instructions on how to prevent digestive troubles in the infant and how to support colicky babies to heal.
Chapter 13 Fathering in the Postpartum
This time can be especially delicate for parents and conflict can often arise. While in the postpartum, mothers continue to desire a protective masculine presence, they do not want fathers to take the lead in the decision making around what is best for the baby. This chapter is an appeal to fathers hold the space for moms to rise up and to acknowledge that she is intrinsically equipped to know instinctively what will best serve her own and the baby`s well being. It also sks mothers to be patient as fathers also rise up to the challenge of becoming a strong unwavering and solid presence- able to weather the storms of her emotion without needing to “fix her“, solve her problems or offer advice.
Chapter 14 Preparing your Post Partum Sanctuary
In North American culture, women are expected, to not only to recover physically and emotionally from childbirth in a short period of time, but they are also expected, to simultaneously and solely care for their baby without breaks, support and community life. At no other time in history, have women been expected to do so much, with so little help. In this chapter, I provide a checklist of 18 preparations and practises that make for an easeful transition during the postpartum, plus creative ways to get help.
Chapter 15 The Un-Nurtured Woman
In my observation and experience, if women do not receive some kind of postpartum nurturing, a complication will eventually present itself in the postpartum, thus enabling the mother to receive the help and attention that she truly needs and desires in the first place. These complications are an unconscious way of getting her needs met. In this chapter I share my own personal experience with this phenomenon and explore 7 reasons postpartum women are deserving of special treatment. We look at creative ways that any woman can re enact this time in her life to heal from past abandonment during this most sacred time in her life. We finish this chapter by looking at another benefit of great postpartum rejuvenation for papas- a juicy vibrant mama! We take a peak into how to keep the passion alive in parenthood.
Chapter 16 Co-creating and Cultivating Community
It seems to me that we have become far too fragmented from one another and that a return to some degree of responsibility in one another’s lives on a daily basis is called for, now more than ever. While we all cannot or choose not to move into an intentional community, coop or eco village, in this chapter we explore ways to cultivate more community in our every days lives and contemplate how we can create a more child friendly world. We end this chapter with a full circle look at the potential and benefits of re creating multigenerational communities.
Chapter 17 My Second Postpartum Story
In this final chapter I tell the story of my second postpartum experience showing the contrast between having a typical North American postpartum vs. a holistic one filled with love and community. I share how together with my circle of woman friends, we have created a community and culture of nurturing birth and how anyone can do the same in their circle, one mother-baby at a time.
“I have to tell you how grateful I am that you followed spirit’s prompt to put this all together. It is timely, so necessary. I see many truths that emerged in my own life experiences. I can also attest to the wisdom, nourishment and deep peace that pour forth from this time in our lives. I was also encouraged to just “get on with it” around week 2, like was all this really necessary? But it was and it is. It would be wonderful if more people knew about these safe-guards of maternal, baby, family, community health. Some of my favorite parts are about how we can have a kid moon, or do something special even long after the birth of our children. This is so important, and valuable, for those who at the time did not receive the proper nourishment and acknowledgement they deserved. This is a wonderful gateway into the world of sacred pregnancy, birth and beyond, relationship healing and community building. Years of personal experience as a mother, witnessing as a doula and support to friends and clients as well as many hours of research have gone into this precious resource for all. I will definitely direct friends and family to this labour of love, in the hope of inspiring all to honour and support the budding families in our midst. With humour, compassion, insight and inspiration, Sherry gives recipes for not only herbal infusions, but peaceful beginnings. Thank you Sherry!”
Emily Rivers -Mother of 3, Freebirther, Yoga teacher and Lover of Life
“I just wanted to let you know how much I enjoyed your book! I couldn’t sleep the other night and stayed up till the morning finishing it because I couldn’t put it down. I love how real and down to earth you present your materials and opinions, it made for a good read. It also got me really thinking about hiring a post partum doula after this little baby is born. Not necessarily because I feel I “need” one. But because I think I deserve the sacred time with my new family”.
Alana Nichols Edmonton, AB
“Awesome! I LOVED it!!!!!!! I am so happy to see someone devote a book to the community, the pregnant woman and new mama needs! I especially liked your juxtaposition of postpartum after Isaiah and postpartum after Jasmine’s throughout the book. My two favourite sections were mama as Bodhisattva and the topic of self care. Thank you for writing this!”
Jocelyn Gallagher Vancouver, BC