There is something you need to understand about weight loss if you are ever going to really achieve your ideal weight naturally, sustainably, pleasurably and permanently.
That is, that your results come from the inside out ….on two levels.
Level #1 Inside the Body: You have to transform how your body’s physiology is functioning on the inside (it is not about cutting calories or exercising – that is just forcing your body to lose weight temporarily).
What we do in the Delish Diet is change how your body responds to what you are eating by addressing the underlying health imbalances that are causing you to gain weight (you don’t lose weight to get healthy, you get healthy to lose weight).
Level #2 Inside the Mind: You have to transform your feelings, thoughts and personal paradigms (you can’t have a self concept of being a fat person and expect to lose weight – because your body follows your mind)
What we do in the ‘Weightless – Thin From Within’ Group Coaching Program is up level your mindset, reprogram your paradigm around weight loss and re-create your self concepts so that you can stop experiencing yourself as an overweight person to feeling yourself to be a naturally thin one, who doesn’t need to fret about food.
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If I could tell the world just these few things about weight loss and everyone ACTUALLY GOT THIS, I would put myself out of business and the world would be a better place for it.
1) Face acute stress to transcend chronic stress.
2) You don’t lose weight to get healthy, you get healthy and the weight falls off as a natural good side effect.
3) If you just accepted losing weight at a sustainable rate of 1 pound per week, you would weigh 52 lbs less a year from now.
Omigosh the same fudge conventional style has 2 cups of sugar in it, yuck!
What you will need:
1/2 cup powdered erythritol
1/2 cup cocoa powder
1 cup whipping cream (or canned coconut milk)
1/4 cup butter (or coconut oil)
1 tsp vanilla extract
How to do it:
Step 1: Put everything in a small space pan.
Step 2: Whisk constantly on high bringing it to a rolling shiny boil until it thickens – it should NOT be pourable (or you’ll have a pudding) – it should be so thick that you can’t easily spread it evenly.
Step 3: Pour into a small baking pan lined with parchment paper.
Step 4: Refrigerate until firm.
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Have you ever wondered what the extra weight people carry represents on the psycho-spiritual level?
Getting skinny won’t change your life, but losing what it represents metaphysically will!
How many of these resonate?
1. You are carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders.
2. You are carrying more than your fair share of the work around the house or at work.
3. You’re in a partnership that feels like dead weight and you are trying to drag that person forward with you, while they dig their heels in to keep the status quo.
4. You are insulating yourself from someone who doesn’t respect your boundaries, the fat is as a form of protection. The bigger you are, the less vulnerable you feel.
5. You are shrinking on the inside to avoid upsetting someone in your life who feels threatened or in competition with you. The more your soul shrinks-to-fit on the inside, the bigger your body grows on the outside.
6. You’re using the weight as an excuse to wait. You’ve been putting off something you know you need or want to do because you haven’t quite yet worked up the courage to get started.
7. You are carrying unhealed and unresolved emotional baggage and trauma that is draining your energy and weighing you down.
If you are struggling with excess weight and emotional weight, you are going to have to face these issues head on and stop suppressing how you really feel.
But you don’t have do it alone!
Want to chat about how you can get support to let go of both the physical and emotional weight?
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You’ll usually find me talking about how chronic stress can cause hormonally driven weight gain.
But did you know that you can also use stress to your advantage?
It is extremely likely that one of the causes of your chronic stress is actually not enough ACUTE stress.
You see, your primal brain only knows two kinds of stress.
1) Famine and winter (chronic stress)
2) War and wild animals (acute stress)
When you experience chronic stress (even though you have modern world problems), your body still goes into fat storage mode to protect you.
However, when you are in a state of acute stress, your body loses weight to protect you as well – so that you can run away – and fast!
Far too many modern woman face what seems like an insurmountable chronic stress – day in and day out.
Instead of facing those struggles head on (which is scarier), we settle for what feels easier in the moment (dealing, coping and managing)…..after all the devil we know is safer than the one we don’t!
While acute stress can stretch us in good ways that lead to transformation, chronic stress is draining and depleting.
Many people wait until they are under the wire with their chronic stresses…waiting until it gets so bad that the situation becomes acute – and forces us to change.
If you let your situation become dire, you will inevitably face the acute stress you now fear – BUT because you didn’t face it head on consciously – you’re more likely to feel like a victum to it.
Life eventually forces us. It is the universe helping you wake up!
If you don’t give your problems the focused attention they deserve – they will get your attention anyway – BUT not in a way that you will like!
What problems do you need to face in your life now?
Which ones are ones that if you dealt with them head on it would feel like an acute stress – but would ultimately relieve a source of your chronic stress?
We all need support when it comes to chronic stress.
The fact is that if you have chronic stress in your life, you might know what to do – but you don’t know how to get yourself to do what you know you need to do! The fact that you haven’t solved it for yourself is proof of that.
In my Weightless program you’ll get the support you need to tackle the hard stuff and best of all, you don’t have to do it alone.
Contact me at [email protected] if you would like to get on the phone, Skype or Zoom to find out if the Weightless program is exactly what you need next to drop more than JUST the physical weight – but the emotional weight too!
Part of becoming Weightless is not only facing your problems head on, but also doing positive things that scare you!
You know, those things you’ve always wanted to do, but keep putting off because you’ve been ‘chicken-ing out’?!
What is something that both exhilarates and terrifies you?
Whatever that thing is, I can promise you that it is an important part of your journey to becoming Weightless!
Your poop can answer a lot of questions about your health and if your body agrees with what your putting into it or not. Everything from consistency, whether or not your logs leave streaks on the toilet, and even the colour can give you hints about what you need to change so you can have satisfying bowel movements (seriously, who doesn’t love a good poo?).
So.. if you don’t look at your poop after having a bowel movement, now is a good time to start.
A healthy poop will come out in a few seconds and oddly enough will resemble the tail of a dog. However, an unhealthy poop could feel like you’re dispensing gum balls from your ass, or it could look like a sausage with lumps, be complete liquid, or mushy just like pea soup.
Causes of these poo inconsistencies vary. Depending if it’s chronic or acute, it could be..
Dehydration: especially if you are constipated, have lumpy sausage shaped poop, or if your butt is acting like a gum ball dispenser.
Bacteria/viral associated: usually presents as complete liquid or pea soup consistency
Food intolerances: again, complete liquid or pea soup consistency
Insufficient fat digestion or consumption: can be related to lumpy sausage & gum ball shaped poop OR it could result in my next point..
Dampness: usually a result of a dairy intolerance, or sugar/gluten/alcohol consumption resulting in streaks left inside the bowl after flushing. It is likely that you will have to wipe a dozen times to get all the poop off of your hole in this situation.
or you could just be stressed out and need to relax. Lots of diarrhea/constipation is a result of stress!
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It is a sad state of affairs, when we find our identity based on what we own (or don’t), instead of simply knowing and feeling that who we are is enough.
Are there things in your life that you cling to identity wise?
For me personally, the hardest thing to let go of is books….it is like as though somehow they are a physical representation of my perspective, thoughts, and beliefs – that I feel compelled to carry into the future.
Ownership can also be a form of internalized self-bondage when one prioritizes ‘stuff’ in a way that they are enslaved by having it.
A great example is purchasing something on credit and becoming a slave to paying it back.
It is slavery when you make a payment of $100 a month, only $30 goes to the principal!
Owning a house can be bondage too.
For example, you are not legally allowed to rent it out until you have a certain amount of equity in it, even if all you really want to do is travel the world working from your laptop!
Personally, I keep having visions of downsizing even more (I love clearing clutter!) and moving into a tiny house or VW campervan so that I can do the live, work, travel thing……and my brain keeps asking, but what about all those books!?
Where will they go? What if I need one of them in the future?
Sadly, our industrialized society fosters this kind of unhealthy attachment with all its commercialism and lack of community in close proximity.
Far too often we bond to stuff instead of people.
What’s worse though than having debt, feeling trapped or hard pressed to let go of our stuff is that some people are even willing to give up their relationships or what really matters in life to have it.
Think of all the siblings that fight over an inheritance.
Or couples that fight when they have a different idea of how to manage money.
Oh! The unbelievable lack of willingness to do the work of ‘working it out’ and the extravagant willingness to give up love and connection, just to have more ‘stuff’ or more money in the bank!
How ridiculous it all is, when the truth is that the only joy we get from having stuff is sharing it!!
It is not the ‘stuff’ that brings joy….it is the sharing of it that does.
It is just that some people’s joy in so called sharing it, is ‘sharing’ that they have it – just to get approval – not to actually share it.
There is nothing inherently wrong with having stuff.
What’s wrong is prioritizing it over people, being overly attached to keeping it, giving it too much significance to it or developing an identity based on it.
My ex once told me that it was important to him to own a house because he felt that it gave him an identity.
This subject is a touchy one and personal for me.
Only a few years later, his mom literally gave him a house (notice I did not say ‘us’, I wasn’t included in the original lender financed mortgage contract) and not too soon after – with nothing to lose monetarily – they went behind my back, destroyed the contract and my mother in law put the house in his will.
And then he asked for a divorce.
His reason? He said he wanted a divorce because I spent too much money on our children’s privately funded art based education and organic food.
He openly admitted that he cared more about money than me and more about saving money than investing in our children’s health and well-being.
He refused to go to marriage counseling.
He said the only way he would want to stay together, was if I stopped doing what I do (being a nutritionist and educator), stopped buying organic food and I would have to pull the kids out of private school and put them in public school.
BTW – I had been paying for their schooling from the start with my own money….and equally putting money towards food, bills and the so-called “mortgage”….that had been our agreement, that I would take on extra work to make it happen – and I did.
Basically, he was asking to give up my passion and purpose in life while asking me to compromise my values so that he could have more money – all the while making no additional effort of his own to generate any extra himself.
Somehow it was my responsibility to not only save money but to generate more as well.
All the while he kept sabotaging my every effort to do so.
From claiming bankruptcy and never getting discharged (because he wouldn’t follow through on his responsibilities), to getting fired from his job, to being so horrible to our roommate that the person felt compelled to leave overnight without notice, to not helping with yardwork, to keeping the walkway to our Air B n B space looking like a garbage dump, to spending a year on EI not looking for a job, to deliberately choosing not to go back to his $30 hour profession and taking one that pays $22 hr for the same work.
And all that time, I didn’t nag, I didn’t try to make him feel bad. I gave him space to just do what he wanted and stood by his side through all of it and the many hard times leading up to it.
And in the end, he still decided to blame me for everything that isn’t working in his life, instead of taking responsibility for his own actions.
And now he tells lies about me behind my back.
Which is why I am not hiding the truth to protect him and silently suffering (the way I used to), while he deliberately does things to hurt me.
The story he tells to anyone who will listen, is that his current state of financial lack is because I was a shop – a – holic, even though everyone who knows me knows, that I don’t even go to the mall and that I shop second hand – not because I am cheap, but because I want to avoid supporting the sweat shop industry – and because my decorating style is ‘bohemian’!
It turns out that after all this time (together 20 years), he decided he only wanted to keep me in his life if I would be on board to prioritize funding his identity as someone with more money than he currently has.
Because I am not willing to do that to the detriment of my children’s well-being, he determined that I had no value to him anymore.
And he told me that often, in many ways and in more than unspoken terms.
My choice is to choose love and more life for my family, not more ‘stuff’ or status.
I see my children’s education as an investment in their current and future well-being and buying organic food as an investment in their health and the health of the environment for my children’s children.
I am happy to invest in what I believe to be better quality.
I won’t apologize for my values and my standards.
I take the long view. I am not short sighted. I won’t give up on a better future to make today easier.
I am happy to go the extra mile for my kids.
At the end of my life, I get to feel satisfied knowing that I did everything possible to create a healthy childhood, connection, creativity and community around my kids.
That makes me happy now too, as I believe in doing what is right, not what is easy.
And I was more than willing to go to marriage counseling, in fact I was desperate to and this whole experience has been heartbreaking for me.
Despite all his shortcomings, I was still in love with him – even after 20 years of it.
But you can’t make someone love you, do the work or hold the same values that you do.
If there is one thing I have learned it is this….
If you have the lifestyle and the ‘stuff’, but you are with the wrong person, you’ll never enjoy it or be happy anyway.
But if you are with the right person, you don’t need anything more than their love and presence to be happy right where you are.
I would rather spend my time, energy and money cultivating experiences and making memories with people.
At the end of the day, that’s a healthy attachment and I was with a man who didn’t want to cultivate that kind of attachment.
He didn’t want to come to the dinner table when supper was ready, nevermind spend time with his family and so naturally, he bonded to ‘stuff’ and substances instead.
Sadly, his inability to bond to people because of childhood trauma and emotional neglect also fuelled his addictions (and yeah, I won’t even go there or try to calculate how much money he spent on that).
We cover cool stuff like….
– Seasonal Rejuvenation
– Health & Healing
– Mindset Practices
– Planning with the Moon Cycles
– Making a Living Doing What you Love
– Bohemian Business
– Abundance Consciousness